The Ideal Man?

Before a woman enters marriage-the courtship period. This period is comprised by two crucial stages viz., 1) a man's proposal to be her beau (boyfriend) 2) the beau's proposal to be her husband. And such is what we may call as the normal process of any relationship deeply directed towards marriage. However, some good things may just never last. She may just, after having realized uneasiness, decide that having her relationship ended is just the better option. Thus, she ends up her relationship for good. With this, she needs time to be refreshed and to forget her melancholic past. She might just as well allow life to go on. Or, when fully recovered, may wish into relationship again. There is one gray area here that most people fail to notice in the courtship period. And this gray area when further stressed out might just tear down a woman's principle and aspiration- the ideal man/ guy next door. This early, the clearest premise I could give is that a woman's desire for the ideal man is after all a fiction. Women, when speaking about their ideal man describe it as perfectly as it would fit their deepest hopes and for what to them should be a partner. One woman may assert that her ideal man is one who is kind, bright, loving, and responsible. Another woman longingly eyes for a tall, dark and handsome man. Simply put, a woman has all the luxury to think of what her ideal man should be. This she hopes she can find one sweet day. This very tag (ideal man) speaks pretty well of itself for whatever a woman would dream and hope for, this she might never meet in reality. A woman's ideal man is simply a concoction of her mind's creativity and longing for a perfect partner. To this I could say that this notion of an ideal man might have taken shape from people's love for watching fairy tales which are obviously fictitious. Another reason we may have that may leave a woman's notion of the ideal man to collapse is the fact that a woman's choice of partner is to a very limited scale. If she really wanted to enter into a relationship, then she simply has to content herself with her circle of suitors. She has to choose one. One may then ask, does her ideal man have a place in her limited circle of suitors? What if in her suitors she does not find the ideal man? Will she continually wait for another circle of suitors hoping that she finds him in the next? What if her longing for the ideal man never comes? Or will she keep the fire burning for a relationship just content herself with her suitors even if her ideal man is never there? In the long run, the woman realizing that she can't find her ideal man, learns to adjust and value his partner as he truly and sincere is. Here, she now trash her belief of the ideal man and accept her boyfriend in his whole being. After faring with her boyfriend, and having realized that they are both emotionally, psychologically, and financially able, she can now hope for marriage. She may never find her ideal man but a husband so loving and faithful to his commitments is after all what can make her glad and thus, compensate his longing for an ideal man.